Need Security? Self-Confidence?![Feel secure and confident](https://www.tipsforsuccess.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/secure-safe.jpg)
We need security for our money, our jobs and our assets. We want security for our families, our marriages and our friendships. We want to feel safe.
We do not want to feel danger, attack or risk. We do not want fear, anxiety or doubt. We do not want to be broke, ill or desperate.
Security is a big business in this world. For example, consider the billions spent on national security, online security, financial security, health insurance security and retirement security.
But what truly gives us security? Money? Expertise? Armed forces?
No, because wealthy people, experts and people with weapons feel just as insecure as everyone else.
Question: What do we all really want?
Answer: The ability to determine our future. Most of us want to enjoy a safe, abundant, healthy and prosperous future.
How can we get this kind of security?
“Self-confidence alone is security. Your ability is your security. There is no security but you.” — L. Ron Hubbard
That’s right: self-confidence. If you are confident, you feel secure.
For example, if you are confident you will never be hungry, you have food security. If you are confident you will earn enough money for all of your expenses, you have financial security. If you are sure you will always be a valuable worker, you have job security.
So why do we feel insecure? How do we build our self-confidence? Easy!
“INSECURITY EXISTS IN THE ABSENCE OF KNOWLEDGE.” “All security derives from knowledge.” — L. Ron Hubbard from The Problems of Work
For example, if you have the knowledge of how to earn plenty of money for your needs, you feel financially secure. If you know how to make your marriage go well, you have a secure marriage. If you know how to fix your car, you are secure and confident regarding your car.
As you gain the knowledge you need, you feel secure and confident. You know the secret!
Four Examples
1. You worry about losing electricity to your home. You might lose power for several days or even weeks, especially during a big storm. You do not want you and your family to have no power! So, you increase your knowledge. You learn about home generators, living off the grid, solar panels, heat sources and more. As you study, you create a preparation plan so you and your family will never be cold. As you carry out your plan, you feel confident that you will be fine. You have security.
2. You worry about losing your retirement savings. For the past 30 years you have been saving as much as you can but are terrified you might lose it all. You ask yourself, “What if we go into another depression like the 30’s? What if the government confiscates all savings accounts? What if I get sued and lose everything? What if I’m sick, old and broke? Will I actually be cold and hungry?” You do your research to increase your knowledge. You ignore “gloom and doom” articles and get facts about insurance, the depression, retirement account rules, government takeovers and everything that worries you. You read investment books about successful investors. You talk to a lawyer, an accountant, an insurance rep or an investment counselor. The more you learn, the more confident you feel. You figure out a plan that works for you. You feel secure.
3. You want to travel to Mexico but feel insecure about going to another country. You hear about drug cartels, tourist kidnappings and diseases. So you do your research and find the bad news is completely exaggerated by the news media. You find facts, talk to people who have traveled around Mexico, learn about passports, read hotel reviews, watch travel videos, learn some Spanish and review your travel options. After a few hours, you start to feel secure about traveling to Mexico. After several days of research, you begin to feel like a confident expert. You have enough knowledge to dissolve your insecurities.
4. You notice one of your back teeth is loose for no reason that you can imagine. You feel insecure about your teeth when you realize you could lose all of your teeth. You decide to get more knowledge about teeth. You read 15 articles about tooth loss. You KNOW tooth loss comes from cavities and gum disease. You go to a dentist and ask for help. The dentist is happy to see a knowledgeable patient and helps you save your teeth. You clean your mouth three times a day, visit your dentist twice each year and never lose a single tooth. You know you will never need dentures.
Five Steps to Gaining Security and Confidence
1. Pick a subject where you need more security or confidence.
2. What do you need to KNOW about that?
3. How can you get that knowledge? Such as Google Search.
4. Get that knowledge. Read articles and books or watch videos. Use a dictionary to understand the words and terms so you understand everything you read. Take your time.
5. Keep adding knowledge until you KNOW this subject. You will feel confident and secure.
It’s easier than you think!