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Most people believe the best way to succeed is to fix problems. They say, “What’s wrong with me? What am I doing wrong? Why am I failing?”

They focus on their mistakes, weaknesses, and fears. They look for flaws in themselves and those around them. However, this leads to failure. Instead of improving, things get worse.

For example, you really need more money. So you you ask yourself, “What’s wrong with my work? Why can’t I find a better job?” “Why don’t people give me money?”

As a result, you see wrongnesses all around you.

  • “Maybe I’m broke because I’m lazy.”
  • “I’m depressed so I have to eat junk food and watch TV to feel better.”
  • “I can’t admit I’m confused.”
  • “My boss is a jerk and should pay me more.”
  • “If my family wasn’t so expensive, I’d be rich.”
  • “The government is behind my problems.”
  • “All the opportunities are gone.”

Wrongness, wrongness, wrongness.

Instead of improving yourself, you dwell on problems.

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“If you only look for wrongnesses and only recognize wrongnesses then you will never be able to pull anything up. We have to look at the rightnesses in order to increase them.” — L. Ron Hubbard

In other words, focus on what’s right FIRST. You shift from fixing wrongnesses to increasing rightnesses.

For example, you still need to earn more income, so you ask yourself “What’s right about me?” “What am I doing right?” “How is the world helping me succeed?”

Now you see rightnesses everywhere.

  • “Well, I’m an awesome producer when I want to be.”
  • “I’m smarter than most people.”
  • “I see where I need to do some study.”
  • “My boss ignores my excuses as she knows I can do better.”
  • “Thanks to my family, I have a happier life.
  • “The government gives me a safe place to live and work.”
  • “I have opportunities everywhere.”

Rightness, rightness, rightness.

You feel cheerful and confident. You feel motivated. You have realizations.

NOW you can fix the wrongnesses.

“Hey, I can increase my production by 10% if I use this free software.” “I can get the power to skip all these useless requirements.” “I can delegate half of my work load and work on the big money jobs.”
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Exercise: How to Improve Yourself

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1. Pick an area you want to improve. Here are ten examples:

  • Earn more money
  • Improve your kids’ behavior
  • Reduce your work stress
  • Get in better shape
  • Upgrade your boring work
  • Get more support from others
  • Upgrade your possessions
  • Increase your productivity
  • Build your savings
  • Do more good for the world

2. Write down what is right about that area. What are you doing correctly? What’s going well?

3. Keep finding the rightnesses until you feel a boost. You may see immediate improvements.

4. After you get the boost, write down what is wrong with the area. What needs to be fixed? What can you improve? What must change?

5. If writing down the wrongnesses starts to pull you down, immediately stop. Go back to step #2 and list more rightnesses.

6. Once you see more rightnesses than wrongness, you discover awesome solutions to fix the wrongnesses.

Never forget this fact about yourself:

“An individual is basically and routinely good, capable of many actions and considerable power.” — L. Ron Hubbard

Next: Read how to love yourself.